Recently we had a Presidential election. I asked my son if he planned to vote. He, like many other 20 somethings, replied, “why would I participate in a system where I have no voice? What’s the point, if the outcome doesn’t affect my life personally?” Although I see the point of his argument, my reply is, “because we are all in this together, and we can’t make changes if we accept the status quo!”
There is something worrisome about our future. We are raising children who are given whatever they want, whenever they want it. Not only are they given everything, nothing is asked OF them. They are not required to DO anything. When one isn’t asked to accomplish anything, one grows up believing they are not CAPABLE. Our dependent children are no ones fault but our own. Perpetuating the helplessness of a future society. This is the opposite of what just 2 generations ago believed. They thought we, as individuals working together, could change anything… Make a difference in our society. But somewhere along the line, what changed? Individual values? Culture? Everything is culture. The “self” is more valued than the “group” in American culture. Individualism is revered and youth is idealized.
There was an anthropologist who had been studying the habits of culture of a remote African tribe. He had been working in the village for quite some time and the day before he was to go, he put together a gift basket filled with delicious fruits from around the region and wrapped it in ribbon. He placed the basket under a tree and then he gathered up the children in the village. The man drew a line in the dirt, looked at the children, and said, “When I tell you to start, run to the tree and whoever gets there first will win the basket of the fruit.” When he told them to run, they all took each other’s hands and ran together to the tree. Then they sat together around the basket and enjoyed their treat as a group. The anthropologist was shocked. He asked why they would all go together when one of them could have won all the fruits for themselves? A young girl looked up at him and said, “How can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?”
Ubuntu is the African word meaning, “I am because we are.” Our humanity is caught up in our connection with those around us. As Americans, we are taught the opposite. Being “the one with the most toys” does not insure happiness. The 1% are no less, anxious or depressed, lonely or unhealthy. There is a spiritual disconnection in the way we are socialized to achieve individual success over the success of our tribe. One way I stay connected to this concept of humility as a way of life, is by waking every morning and asking my Higher Power, “Show me how to be of service today.” I have some days that are better than others because I am human, after all, but it’s all in the intention. Your perception becomes your reality. I truly believe this. So today, I will practice gratitude, compassion and remind myself (and my son) that we are known by our actions, the way we treat others, and not by what we own or the contents of our bank accounts.